7 Spirits: 7 deadly Sins: 1. Pride, 2. Lust, 3. Gluttony, 4. Sloth, 5. Greed, 6. Envy, 7. Wrath
P.S. These spirits are so detrimental to our soul that each one deserves their own post. Read each one by one so you can get the full understanding of each.
Pride is 1 of the 7 spirits that’s being absorbed by your soul. This is the spirit of heartbreak because it makes you feel like you’re too good to let things go or to be healed from past wounds. It doesn’t allow you to forgive, making you a victim to memory. It also doesn’t allow you to be put in other people’s shoes thus making you heartless to others’ situations. It is an evil spirit whos energy we channel daily. But with the right amount of understanding, you can not only overcome this bad influence, you can also learn to heal, making yourself free from its claws once and for all.
1. Pride
I started with pride because I know this is one of the spirits that may be the hardest to get over. It’s probably one that most people will always keep absorbing whether we want to or not. But, allowing yourself to understand its influence will be better than just absorbing blindsided. Pride is an inflated sense of self, of your accomplishments, and of your abilities. The way you want to see yourself, instead of the way you actually are. Many believe pride is only for the clothing you wear, or for the wealthy individuals, but is not. A very common misconception of pride is that is materialistic, or that it only has to do with how you carry yourself but that’s far from the truth. Yes, pride can hide well inside a narcissist, but many people use pride every single day as a response to their daily lives. For example; when you see someone go through something in their life and their reaction to their circumstance, you don’t approve of it. Like a friend who forgave their partner’s infidelity and you reply with, “I could never forgive them” or “I wish someone would play with me like that”. That pride that’s in your voice by someone else’s situation is that absorption. You are not that person and have not been in their relationship, nor know the circumstances that led to the infidelity or to the forgiveness of it. That sense of pride is really not saying, “I will never get cheated on” but it is instead saying, “she is so silly to have forgiven him, and by saying, “I could never”, what you’re really implying is, “I’m stronger than her when it comes to never forgive someone for using my trust in them.” You are practically saying, I am better than her, I will never forgive someone who cheats or it can never happen to me.” Is not only with cheating, it can be with abandonment or being robbed, disrespected, used, abused, lied to, and even molested. Pride doesn’t allow you to forgive because it makes you believe that you are too good to forgive them or they don’t deserve your forgiveness. Without realizing that forgiveness is the only thing that may set you free. Pride is somehow believing you are superior to others for living their lives in a way that you believe you could never live. Or going through certain circumstances and overcoming them, and believing you are better or stronger than others because they couldn’t overcome the way you did or believe you could. A keyword has been forgiveness. Pride doesn’t allow you to forgive. It doesn’t allow you to understand others’ perspectives on doing certain things. It doesn’t allow you to see the human thought behind things. Be vulnerable, loving, caring, or forgiving. It is a key role in why we don’t trust after someone has failed us or used us.
The sad thing about not being able to forgive is that sometimes forgiveness is personal. Trauma builds trust issues. Not being able to forgive, doesn’t allow you to heal, doesn’t allow you to live fully, or love correctly. Doesn’t allow you full happiness.
How To Overcome Pride
- FORGIVE.
Yes, not everyone deserves your forgiveness, because many have done things unimaginable in our lives. But you deserve to heal. You deserve to live a life where you’re not so angry all the time or don’t feel used or abused. By not allowing yourself to forgive, you’re becoming a victim to that person lifelong. What happened was horrible, it is sad, and it hurt, but it happened, and you can’t do anything to change the past. But you don’t have to let the past torment you in your present life, future life, and the lives of your loved ones. You were a victim once, but you have to be a victor now. Don’t allow a person to steal any more happy moments from you. Don’t let them steal your trust, your love, and your happy moments. Accept that an apology may never come, and even if it does, it may never do anything for you mentally or spiritually. Only you can forgive them and forgive yourself because even though it was not your fault, the victim tends to blame themselves sometimes. (I know, I’ve been there.)
- Be Open-Minded and Understanding
Get over that “I could never” mentality. You have not been put in the other person’s predicament, therefore, you can’t speak about their choices or their lifestyles. And, yes, your life may be very similar to theirs, but you were not raised by their parents or are inside their minds or dealing with the same character that person deals with, so even if it may seem identical to your life, it is not. Once you open your mind to the life of someone, you end up happier. You end up actually seeing the blessing in your life, that you’re not going through what they’re going through or if you went through something similar how amazing it is you went through it and persevered. So, instead of turning a judging eye to someone when in reality is a prideful eye, become an understanding person. Try seeing the person’s point of view and maybe even tell them how you got over that hard time in your life and how amazing you’re doing now, you never know whose life you may be helping.
My Moment with Pride
As I previously stated, pride is a spirit whose energy is among the hardest ones not to channel. I have been prideful, a lot. So many times that even on a daily, I would see a girl wearing something ugly and maybe think to myself, like ugh, gosh no! I can’t ever be caught dead wearing that, lol. I know it seems silly, but it’s true. But then, I quickly correct myself and say, maybe it was laundry day for her, or maybe that was a shirt gifted to her by her sister who may no longer be here with us. And yes, maybe her life may be perfect and her clothing choices horrendous but at least I put myself in check, which is what matters to me.
I was not raised by my dad, and for many years I was very upset with him over that. I thought, “how can you have a child and just abandon them? I could never do something so evil.” I didn’t know my stepdad wasn’t my dad until I was about 12 years old or so. After I found out, my life came crashing down, I spent all my teenage years hating a man I practically never really knew. My mom had me at 17, she was very young, but she was there. She met my step-dad at the age of 18 or so, I was only 1 when my step-dad came into my life, so he practically took over the father role. And, yes I understood that at least I had a dad, but my pride didn’t allow me to see how blessed I was in having a father figure. My pride would keep me miserable and rebellious. To cut the story short, today I am an adult. I am no longer that rebellious teen. I was able to understand that my real dad was only a scared teen boy himself when my mom got pregnant. He feared for his future. He and my mom had agreed on abortion and luckily for me, my mom changed her mind. I no longer blame him, I am happy that he understood then that he couldn’t be my dad, I am happy he left because it opened the door to another man who more than gladly took his place. I spent so many years hating someone for not being there, that I almost lost the one person who didn’t have to be there yet wanted to. My rebellious years almost made my parents get a divorce. Today, I don’t hate my real dad, I instead understand him. I thank him and I wish one day for us to fix our relationship, even if it’s not full-blown father-daughter, but I would really like for my future children to know that forgiveness is possible especially when it adds people to your family line. My pride almost made me lose my dad, but my healing allowed for my heart to open up a spot just in case another wants to ever join, with no remorse or questions asked.
